Friends Can Sabotage Your Diet
April 23rd, 2007 by Rian | Filed under Miscellaneous.I have this friend - one of my best female friends, in fact, whom I’ll call “J” here. I hung out with her pretty much the entire weekend. (Well, Saturday night and then several hours Sunday evening as well). J knows that I am counting calories now and trying not to drink much. But when we hang out at her house, which we did, it’s nearly impossible because she always pulls out her bottle of Goldschlager and offers up shots. Or she will make all kinds of food which is always calorie-laden and unhealthy. (On a side note, we are about the same height and I found out today we weigh about the same - she also wants to lose weight but isn’t really trying to).
So… Saturday night, we did shots of Goldschlager. Lots of them. (I made up for the calories by not eating much of anything). Sunday, after our usual talk of “Damn I can’t wait to lose weight” and “ugh I feel so fat” (our usual fat talk), she goes and orders pizza. THEN she makes the most tempting foods ever - fried mozzarella sticks, fries, etc. And this is when she knows that I am on a diet and trying not to drink. I only had a couple of each, but still… WHY does a person who is supposed to be your friend do that? Is it sabotage? I know I am responsible for my own diet. But why do people offer things to people when they know the person is trying NOT to do them?
So needless to say, I blew my diet Sunday big-time. Not only that but I drank way too much over the weekend. I feel like absolute crap right now, most likely from all the alcohol. I am definitely not drinking this coming week at all.
But it bugs me. I mean, every time I stop drinking, either J or B offers me alcohol non-stop. Or when they know I’m on a diet, they offer fattening foods. I have willpower, but dammit, not much! (Or I wouldn’t be in this shape to begin with). What am I supposed to do? Hang out alone? Grrrr.
The good news is, I have tomorrow’s entire menu planned out, and it totals 1250 calories. It consists of 3 meals and 2 snacks. Some of the items I’ll be eating is grapes, oatmeal, green tea, salad, yogurt, and those egg-beater egg things. Perhaps tomorrow I’ll type up the entire day’s menu.
whether you have willpower or not, your friends are not responsible for your diet. if they want to eat crap, that’s up to them. if you can’t handle it, then its up to you to find a way to say no, or to not hang around them. or you can have a talk with them and say, I’m sorry, your eating habits really detract from what I’m trying to do, could you and I hang out and do other activities besides eat? But, its really unfair to say that you blew your diet because your friend eats poorly. If she wasn’t force feeding you the food then its safe to say, you didn’t have to eat the junk that she made.
I’m not blaming my friend, Kyle. I’m simply stating that every time I try to eat well or refrain from drinking, my friends offer me tempting and fattening food and alcohol. The thing I don’t understand is why they do it. If I know a person is not drinking or trying to cut calories, I won’t offer them either. It’s only polite!
they are sabotaging your diet and health. people like this are toxic, sure they’re not downright evil, but they do things, little things to make sure you’re still like them. if you must be alone so be it, maybe you’ll find other friends that want the same goals as you and dont “talk” the fat talk.
All I can say is this means they are not true Friends. …Think about it instead of helping you out they are distorting you plan … What kind of a good friend will do that Ask your self will you do it to your daring Friend who so wants to loose…
And also if you cant keep them away then you have to control your self in eating … Its A MIND GAME DEAR … you have to beat through your mind .. this battle is hard but think about the reward and i know you want it … so Go Ahead and Push your self for Commitment .. if you keep doing things like that then be ready to see scale go up instead of down and i know you don’t want it .. so just think about it seriously .. ONLY YOU PUT FOOD IN YOUR MOUTH .. no one is killing you to do so but Yeah your so Called Friends should help u achieve ur Goal rather then destroy it …